Thinking of ending your marriage? Reading the divorce papers that your spouse just handed you?
No matter how you got to this point, it is important to know how to proceed. Here are a few things you must avoid:
- Don't start spending extra money. You may be tempted to do it, thinking you're just going to have to divide that money in the divorce anyway, but excessive spending can work against you. Your ex may allege in court that you should have to pay them 50 percent of the money you spent, for instance, or you could wind up with extra debt if you made those purchases on credit cards.
- Don't make your kids feel like it is a choice between you or your ex. They should never have to pick between their parents and take sides. Your goal should always be looking after their best interests.
- Don't make spiteful, emotional decisions. It just makes the process harder than it has to be. Even when you feel angry or hurt, you want to make rational, well-thought-out choices.
- Don't assume your relationship is completely over, especially if you have kids. The marriage may end, but you and your ex will still cross paths with shared custody of those children.
- Don't put it all online. It may be wise to take a social media break. You don't want to say something you'll regret, and you must remember that social sites can provide evidence in divorce cases.
Avoiding these mistakes can help your divorce go smoothly go smoothly, but it's still a complicated process. Be sure you understand all of your legal options.